It is pretty easy to remember all the wrong and bad things someone said to you or says about you. What about the good stuff Chum?
Click click, the picture was snapped. My roommate and I decided to go through the pictures and then, there was this particular one where I smiled so wide, you could see my complete sets of teeth (not 32 by the way) but you could see everything. I was smiling from ear to ear. It was one of those pictures that would fall under the category of “um, you fine, but nah.”
I know right, growing up in an environment like mine, you would hear nice things almost every day; something to make you smile, jabs at you to make you better, conversations that keep you going, affirmations that leaves you grounded and it goes on and on. From side comments such as you are so beautiful to swagu! To weird things like Baby (from my baby sister by the way *rollseyes*) or like a colleague used to say, pretty woman (an irony yeah). Or with my dad stopping in mid conversations to remind me of my fine set of teeth or my friend, Sammie, that writes me short notes once in a while filled with sweet words or Yang that can never go wrong with rhymes and lines or my lovely uncle that points me to my strengths. These things add up whether I accept it or not and a huge percentage of them have helped form a part of my being.
Some days, it is strictly a one-time thing. And then, we travel, as always. We change our environment and it changes us in return where you are left in ecstasy between joy and a heart break or between a blank face and a smile.
In that moment, you become awake in a world, in that little space of yours having no account of wrongs or politics or complications for it only consisted of people who were being kind with words, who told you the truth, even for once, that the words spoken to you is as pure as what you are.
I was in SSS1 in a boarding school going to see my school mother and then I bumped into a friend of hers- I remember her name. Bolu Akintewe (she is married now, I guess) said; Oh Ochez, you have such a beautiful smile. Chum, I smiled and I doubt I have recovered from what she said 8 years ago. And seeing that she probably said it subconsciously or can’t even remember she said so to me reassures or certifies the point that little words of kindness, nice comments go a long way in shaping an individual.
And there is the part where you get to know how dope you are without validation, congratulation, or a celebration- says someone I admire from a distance.
The nicest things anyone has said to me are found in a pool of conversations, small talks, and lengthy dialogues.
So, there comes a plethora of so many nice things someone has said to you too. Kindly share yours Chum.